Want a successful relationship? Here’s how to choose the right one.

Choice is your greatest superpower, while Trust is the currency of any relationship. How do you find a balance?

A relationship has two dimensions.
Freedom and Boundaries.

This includes every type of relationship.
Romantic.
Parental.
Brotherhood.
Relatives.
Friendship.
Professional.
… everything.

Let me explain.

Boundaries.

Boundaries mean not giving the other person choices.
To do whatever they want to do.

Boundaries are important.
Probably
your partner sleeping with another person.
your friend is disrespecting you.
your employee is asking for too many breaks.
your employer is making you work overtime.
your boss is asking to sleep with you to promote you.

You will not probably allow these occurrences in your life.
These may be your strict boundaries.
In that case, you have to make it really clear.
If you get any sign of the happenings.
You have to immediately take action, and talk to the person.
Then take proper decisions.

Freedom.

Freedom means giving the other person choices.
To do whatever they want to do.

Freedom is equally important.
A relationship brings in various aspects.
The individuality.
The Freedom of Speech is therefore important.
For a good relationship between the government and you.
The freedom to make decisions about your life.

This happened to me.
One of my acquaintances.
She was constantly trying to sell me an idea.
I didn’t want to do that.
I clearly communicated that.
Thus, I have to stop talking to her.
My freedom to choose and mental peace is important to me.

While applying for Phd.
Many of them were trying to sell me to come to their university.
But two of them gave me choices.
They told me “There is this, and that”
Now it is your choice to come to Penn State or not.
This made me build trust in my advisor.
Again, he has boundaries about his work.
Respect the boundaries to build a relationship.

Freedom and Boundaries.

Both of them are equally important.
Too much freedom or Too many boundaries.
Ruins trust in a relationship.
Find your own balance.
The balance. The trust. The relationship.
Choose the right one.
Specify your boundaries.
Make your own choices.

Remember.
The first step is to build.
A successful relationship.
With your own Self.

Then choose the right one for a relationship.

Love,
Srijit M.

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